This is YOUR day
As I grew up, my mother instilled in me the value of marriage and the commitment involved. For me, I've always known it was a once in my life event. I may renew my vows in the future but the deed itself for me is a one time deal. I however am my husband's second so I know, sometimes things just don't work out the way we plan. I'm happy to say, we have been together 15 years this July, married 11 in August, and going strong treating everyday like a honeymoon.
When we got married, I had not transitioned into the digital world and had a nice 35mm film camera that I allowed a friend to use to shoot my wedding. To my dismay, when I had the film developed, all but a hand-full of the images came out underexposed. I realized that I did not double check the settings on my camera and was utterly devastated. All that I have are a few images here and there from my personal camera and some from the disposable cameras from our reception.
My personal tragedy has become my motivation. A special day for two people committed to spending the rest of their lives together and that should be the focus. That is why when I shoot a wedding, it is personal to me. I shoot as if I were shooting my own wedding and commit to no less than the same quality work I would expect from a fellow photographer. I work with the couples to determine specific shots they desire and produce a mixture of formals, candid shots, and a story line so that when they look back on those images, the day is so fresh in their mind it's like they are living it over.
You should expect no less from any photographer you work with weather it's for your wedding, graduation, family photos, or a birthday party. If a photographer isn't committed to producing images of no less quality than he/she would themselves accept, you should find a new photographer.